Isn't that just the most beautiful name. When I think of her a flood of memories come back. There is a mixture of laughter, giggles and tears.
Pat and I are first cousins...we were like sisters...and in fact, we were. Neither of us had a sister and so we became each other's sister. She had a brother named Frank who was two years older than us. There was nothing I would not do to please him. I can remember ironing his pants and getting the crease down the front and the back just right. Frank was tall, very blond, blue-eyed and had the most charming smile. Pat and Frank were very blessed with being very beautiful and handsome.
Pat and I are different physically. Pat's parents were fair in color, but my mother...the sister of Pat's mom...had darker features...dark hair, dark eyes and a little darker of skin. Pat was much like my mother except Pat has hazel eyes. Now I inherited Pat's mom's coloring...fair, blue-eyed and even my face is shaped like hers. We always claimed that our mother's switched babies. She and I are the same age only separated by six weeks. I am older, but not wiser.
Because of family circumstances I went to live with her family for my 8
th and 9
th grades of school. The best years of my young life. I had love, good meals, security and happy that I got to live with my favorite cousin.
Fun times. There was a rocking chair on the front porch. Pat and I sat in there together and would eat lemons and sunflower seeds and watch the traffic go by on Jackson Street in our home town of
Medford. How we loved those treats, but little did we know that we were eating the enamel off our two front teeth.
Every Saturday was our responsibility to clean the whole house. We put all the "jobs" on separate pieces of paper, folded them up and put them in a bowl from which we would draw our "jobs" for the day. Every night we had to do the dishes...no dishwashers in those days except human ones. I would wash one night, she would dry. The next night we switched. Sometimes in the process of doing the dishes, one of us would have to go to the bathroom and that meant, at times, that we both would go into this large bathroom and keep one another company. One on the throne and the other on the laundry hamper...using it as a chair. We were always talking. Then back together into the kitchen continuing on with our chores and talking. The chrome was polished on the stove and refrigerator each night, the kitchen swept..all immaculate. These were just great years.
Pat and I slept together in a double bed. That bed had to be made every morning before school. One time we were running late...school was two blocks away. During our classes we were requested to come to the office where they was a message for us to get home immediately and make our bed. The school excused us and we ran home..made our bed and returned to finish our class. Needless to say we never left home without the room looking it's best.
At the dinner table my aunt fixed very nice meals..Pat and I always set the table. The family sat down together, talked and sometimes I would play a game with Pat. When she would take a bite of potatoes, I took a bite. When she wiped her mouth with the napkin, I wiped mine. When she took a drink of her water, I took a drink of mine. I would do this until she noticed and then we both would burst into laughter. You were never allowed to leave the table after you finished eating until you said, "May I please be excused?" Permission was always granted.
Pat and I loved to go to bed with
Velveeta cheese sandwiches with lots of lettuce on them. We would put our sandwich on a small plate, cut it in half and proceed to the bedroom. This was all done after the nightly bath...no shower.., hair put in curlers or bobby pin curls for the next day and pajamas on. We would grab some of our romance magazines, get into bed with our legs pulled up, open the magazine and proceed to eat, read and relax. One time, after following this
procedure, I started to take a second bite of my sandwich when I noticed something extra in it. Oh ugh.....there laid a slug. We had washed the lettuce but apparently not too carefully. Neither one of us could eat after that...so lights were put out and once in a while you could hear a groan or two. To this day, Pat and I inspect every leaf of lettuce we intend to use...front, back , sideways!!!!!!
I could go on and on about this wonderful "sister" of mine. We have not seen each other for years. She sends me pictures once in awhile of her. She is so beautiful with her darker skin, her gorgeous smile. She looks in her 30's, not 70. I want her to remember me the way I used to look...fair, blue-eyed, no fat and always smiling. Those were the days. I love her with all my heart and soul. She is one of the best things that ever happened to me. I thank God for her. My Pat. My Patty-cake. My Patricia.
Mimi's Thought for the Day: Send someone in your past a card, a letter. Tell them how they touched your life. I promise you that by doing this....you will touch theirs.